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Tuesday, 27 May 2025

Journal - Dear Kitty


I was gifted a five year diary when I was about fourteen. Someone, an adult, made unkind remarks about me and diary keeping. I was a sensitive soul and the book remained untouched in a drawer for a year.

I started to write a diary, or journal when I was fifteen. From age seventeen, I missed a lot of years when recording my life on paper wasn’t a priority. I wish it had been, then I could look back on events, see the person I was and compare myself with who I am now. Life is what makes us who we are. Life throws things at us and how we deal with those ups and downs shapes us. Ideally, we learn from life’s experiences, good and bad, and avoid repeating mistakes. No need to beat ourselves up if we don’t get it right. It’s a shame I don’t have the missing bits written down, but there was a time when keeping a diary got me into a spot of bother and another time when it caused me great embarrassment, so perhaps it is a good thing. Why, then, I wonder, do I bother to write a journal now, most days? I see it as therapeutic rather than self-indulgent and hopefully it’s a therapy that does me good and creates memories to read back on. For me, that is. I can’t imagine anyone else being interested.

When Anne Frank began writing to Kitty, she had no idea of the impact those two years of her recorded life would eventually have on the rest of the world. She received a diary for her 13th birthday in June, 1942. A month later, she and her family were in hiding. Her ‘Dear Kitty’ diary entries tell of her hopes and dreams and her adolescent awareness as she developed an attraction for Peter van Pels, who shared the hiding place with his family. She wrote of personal relationships with her family and Peter’s family, her fear of discovery and worries about the disappearance of Jews. Anne died in Belsen concentration camp in 1944. She was fifteen years old. Her diary, discovered by her father, was first published in the UK in 1952, as ‘Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl’. I have laughed and cried my way through that book. It is more than special.

There are many novels written in the epistolary form. I’ll mention a few favourites. ‘The Tenant of Wildfell Hall’ by Anne Bronte is framed round letters from the character Gilbert Markham to his friend about events connected with his meeting with the character Helen Graham, the tenant. ‘The Secret Diary of Adrian Mole Aged 13 and Three Quarters’, by Sue Townsend, is written as a diary. ‘Dracula’ by Bram Stoker, based on letters and newspaper articles is a Gothic horror story which has done a lot for Whitby tourism.

My Haiku,

Secrets coded in
Fountain pen and turquoise ink,
When I was fifteen.

In difficult times,
Between neatly written lines
Are tears of despair.

Cutting my own path,
Italics with flourishes
Speak of confidence.

Scribbled in biro,
Telling of the days events
With love and laughter.

“Look how far you’ve come!”
I remind myself to take
The best from each day.

PMW 2025

Thanks for reading, Pam x

Sunday, 24 November 2013

My Filf List: Fictionals I'd Like To...

16:41:00 Posted by Unknown , , , , 2 comments

This week we’ve been considering the theme of Snog, Marry Avoid. I last did a list like this when I was about fourteen and, understandably, my priorities in a woman have somewhat changed since I watched Nickelodeon. For a change then, I’ve decided to pick my favourite Fictional characters. Yes, a filf list- because I’m so much more mature now than when I’d have picked Tia & Tamera / Clarissa / Moesha.

Snog:  Miss Holiday Golightly, Truman Capote
I love the way she flutters in and out of places in Capote’s Breakfast at Tiffany’s. A woman so seductive they got Audrey Hepburn to play her. I particularly love Golightly turning up announcing
‘but when the beast got so tiresome I just went out the window. I think he thinks I’m in the bathroom, not that I give a damn what he thinks, the hell with him”. Tell me you wouldn’t snog such a spirited thing.

Marry: Miss Elizabeth Bennett, Jane Austen
If wit could be bottled and sold as perfume, her name would be written on the finest scents. A woman with “something more of a quickness than her sisters” and “a lively, playful disposition”, it was the way in which Jane Austen allows her finest heroine to lead Pride and Prejudice that had me hooked. The best bits of Maid Marion, Princess Leah and Jennifer Aniston all bundled into a ball gown- I’ve loved her ever since my schooldays.

Avoid: La Belle Dams Sans Merci, John Keats
“I met a Lady in the Meads/ Full beautiful, a faery’s child;/ Her hair was long, her foot was light/ And her eyes were wild – “
She sounds great, doesn’t she. A right good goer. Well I wasn’t the first man to meet ‘La Belle’ and find himself “alone and palely loitering”. The sedge may be withered from that lake but strangely, the other birds sing. Stay away from these ones or you'll find yourself getting consumption. 

There you have it then, my FILF list. I’m obviously much more sensible with my decisions than I was when I last played the game- opting for fictional over real to save my own scrotum for example-but I must say, I’ve enjoyed the fantasy none the less. Let me know who you’d choose- I’ll just be over here daydreaming of my Lizzie…


Thanks for reading, S. 

Friday, 22 November 2013

Who to Snog, Marry and Avoid?

14:48:00 Posted by Louise Barklam , , , , 13 comments
So, decisions, decisions!  In the absence of a significant other in my life, I could choose anyone really couldn't I?  Are you worried yet?  Mwahahahahahahaha.

Seriously though, since becoming a Widow 3 years ago, I have been leading a solitary life, as you do when these sort of things happen.  To be brutally honest, I can't say that anyone in real life has turned my head, to REALLY start looking for love again.

Therefore, for this weeks topic, I thought I would draw on the wealth of well known faces that we call TV Stars.  There may have been over the years, one or two people on TV who I may have had a little bit of a crush on.  With all the hype surrounding Dr. Who at the moment, it was the ideal opportunity for me to talk about a Programme that I love watching, with an Actor who I think is just lovely.

Who to Snog, Marry and Avoid?

I'd love to snog your face off
Together in tender embrace
Gently nibbling and brushing lips
Trace the contours of your face

In time we'll get Married
I want you to be mine
To be my constant Companion
Until the end of time

But, just so you know, we'll have to avoid
For a while, those troublesome foes of yours
Saving the Universe is all well and good
But being the Doctors Wife takes getting used to of course.


I'll leave it to your own imaginations as to which of the Doctors I'm talking about. I shall be watching tomorrow evening for the latest installment, will you?   #SaveTheDay

Thanks for reading!  ;-)

Thursday, 21 November 2013

Three Little Quotes




“Our only KISS was like an accident – a beautiful gasoline rainbow.” 
Alice Sebold, The Lovely Bones



“The test of a desirable poem is not that one wants to MARRY it immediately but that one wants to meet it again – soon.”
Kevan Johnson, Poetry Review, Autumn 1993



I try to AVOID looking backward and keep looking upward.
             Charlotte Bronte



Monday, 18 November 2013

Snog, Marry, Avoid

Snog, Marry, Avoid

To Snog
To lock in amorous union
To exchange saliva
To be a teenage couple in a bus stop
To press lips so hard
To become a seal of secrets
To Kiss Helena Bonham Carter

To Marry
To lock in spiritual union
To exchange vows
To be a couple that faces the world together
To love so hard
To become a force nature
To say I do to  Kate Bush

To Avoid
To unlock any possible connection
To exchange insults
To be as far away from each other as possible
To hate so vehemently
To become a vat contempt
To stay clear of Pearce Morgan