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Showing posts with label overheard. Show all posts
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Wednesday, 18 December 2019

Overhearing

It’s all very well overhearing an interesting conversation or catching a remark from people passing in the street but I know from bitter experience that I will have forgotten it within milliseconds. So I have carried a notebook in my pocket for years now just so I can jot down things like this from one woman to another on a train somewhere: 
"He’s the type to go as a banana."

But choosing that notebook is not a simple matter. It has to be slim, small enough for the pocket but not so small that it can’t be used to write complete lines. Or lost. It needs to be hard backed, there’s nothing worse in a notebook than creases on a page. Definitely not one with a spiral metal spine that catches on everything else in your pocket when you need it quickly for a comment like this from two people passing in me in a street. I’ve no idea when or where: 
"She was like a radioactive cucumber."

The colour of the notebook is totally irrelevant as to whether it is fit for purpose. I’ve had blue, green, black. If it glowed in the dark, I wouldn’t care.
 

These are my requirements in a pocket notebook:

- The size is about 7 cm by 11 cms
- About 50 pages
- The quality of the paper used is 90 gsm or more (but I’m guessing at that)
- It has to have a robust, hard cover
- It has to have a space in the spine for a small pen or pencil*
- I would like an integrated elastic band to wrap round the notebook
- Ideally it would have a ribbon to mark my place
* Note the point about space for a pen. There’s no point in having a notebook and no pen.

One of my favourite overheard snippets was one that, maybe, doesn’t sound so good now but I heard it in my local newsagents when the Lottery had been going for a while and scratch cards became more popular. It was from a woman in her 60’s to her friend: 
"You can’t go into the shops these days without winning a million."

I’m restricting these comments to stuff that I may be able to use in my poetry. I don’t want to start thinking about times when I’ve heard something about a friend and having the moral dilemma of whether to tell them or not. Or on a more light-hearted note (just) when, a bit like an episode of The Likely Lads, I’ve almost made it to Match of the Day without knowing the scores, when someone sits next to me on the train and his radio leaks into my ear.

I have to tell you this one from two women passing me and a friend on the Bristol Road in Birmingham: 
"But why does John keep a corpse in his flat?" Oh how we wanted to chase them and find out.
 
But sometimes you just have to give yourself up to the moment. I was on a train to Carlisle and a very ordinary young man got on with a very beautiful girlfriend. I thought he’s punching above his weight. They sat down opposite two older men who they both knew as they all worked on the railway. After a while the young man started on a hugely complex tale about how his best mate was trying to hide from his mate’s mother the fact that he had blown up her gateau. I had to hide behind my seat as tears of laughter streamed down my face. Not such an ordinary young man.

Terry Quinn

Tuesday, 1 October 2019

Truth - Be Honest


I overheard something at my mother’s funeral. Fifty years have passed and the words still hurt.

“Poor Sheila, so young. Still, she lasted longer than we thought.”

My auntie, dabbing her eyes, was holding court with other relatives outside Carleton Crematorium Chapel. I can’t remember if it was before or after the service, not that it matters. Nothing mattered, except the deep deception that cut through my very soul. All these people, family and friends of the family had known that my mother was terminally ill, yet they had spent the last however many months speaking to me along the lines of, “When Mummy’s better…”, “When your mum is better…”, “When Sheila gets over this…”.   At nearly fourteen years of age I was old enough to ‘be grown up about all this’, but not considered to be old enough to be included in what was happening or given a chance to say goodbye. I was shattered. I had believed I was secure in a close-knit family. Everybody was hiding the truth.

Well, not quite everybody. My nanna was honest without actually coming out with the words. She was looking after us, my sister and me. Our family ran pubs and we were staying out of town at their pub, rather than ours. I adored my nanna, she was my rock. I wouldn’t usually have stepped out of line with her for the world. There was much love, respect but also a tiny bit of fear because I expected she could be even angrier than my mum if she was cross with me. I don’t know where it came from, but for the one and only time in my life, I gave her a glimpse of my 'stroppy madam' mood and I answered her back. I don’t remember what was said between us or why but I regretted it immediately and braced myself for a slap. It didn’t come. Instead, she hugged me tight and I cried. Tears for being rude to my lovely nanna and tears for worrying about my mum.

“Where there’s life, there’s hope.” Nanna’s words spoke volumes. Sheila, my mum was her daughter. Nanna had already suffered the loss of a daughter, a child, before my mum was born. I wish I had half of her northern grit.

What I overheard at my mum’s funeral taught me about truth and about compassion. My relatives wanted to protect me, though deceiving me into false security was the outcome. It was with the best of intention, I can understand that. My importance of honesty in life-threatening situations is borne of that experience.

 My husband was very ill when our son was about twelve, maybe thirteen. The illness seemed never ending. He was in hospital for months, no diagnosis, no improvement. I’m sure our son thought long and hard before asking me if Dad was going to die. The situation was on his mind more than I realised.  I told him with total honesty, that until it was discovered what was wrong, we didn’t know what would happen, but we hoped Dad would pull through and I promised, I would always tell him the truth. My husband recovered, eventually, thank goodness. My children appreciated the truth.
 
A poem from Muhammad Ali,
 
The face of truth is open.
The eyes of truth are bright,
The lips of truth are ever closed,
The head of truth is upright.
 
The breast of truth stands forward,
The gaze of truth is straight,
Truth has neither fear nor doubt
Truth has patience to wait.
 
The words of truth are touching,
The voice of truth is deep,
The law of truth is simple:
All that you sow you reap.
 
The soul of truth is flaming,
The heart of truth is warm,
The mind of truth is clear,
And firm through rain or storm.
 
Facts are but its shadows,
Truth stands above all sin,
Great be the battle in life,
Truth in the end shall win.
 
The image of truth is Christ,
Wisdom's message its rod;
Sign of truth is the cross,
Soul of truth is God/
 
Life of truth is eternal,
Immortal is its past.
Power of truth will endure,
Truth shall hold to the last.
 
Muhammad Ali  (1942 - 2016)
 
 
Thanks for reading, Pam x